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Masturbation A Guide to Solo Sex for Women

Masturbation A Guide to Solo Sex for Women

When I was around 10, I heard the word “masturbation” and didn’t know what it meant. I went to my trusty source, our aging dictionary (no Google back then), and read something that was equally puzzling. I remember standing at the top of the stairs and screaming down to my mother, “Mom? What’s self-pollution?!?”

(For the record, the real definition of masturbation is touching and stroking your own sex organs for pleasure.)

Women and Masturbating: We’ve Come a Long Way, Baby Fortunately, women have come a long way from those days of shame and guilt about masturbating to today.

“It’s complicated because we have defined women’s lives as well as sexuality in terms of what women can do for others,” explains Christin Bowman, PhD, a critical social psychologist in New York City who did her master’s and doctoral theses on women and masturbation. “Masturbation as a solitary act is really just self-pleasuring, so there can be some emotion about you doing something that is all about you and your pleasure. It’s not productive; it’s just fun for you. That women’s own sexual pleasure also matters becomes a radical notion when you consider this long, long history of our attitude toward women’s sexuality.”

5 Reasons Women Masturbate In her studies, Dr. Bowman found five reasons women masturbate:

For sexual pleasure To learn about or better understand their bodies As a release As a substitute for partner sex Due to general sexual dissatisfaction Women were most likely to enjoy the act without guilt or shame if they felt positively about their genitals and if they reported that they masturbate for sexual pleasure and to learn about their bodies. “There is a connection between the two, but we don’t know which causes which: Does sexual empowerment cause masturbation, or does masturbation cause sexual empowerment?” says Bowman.

4 Health Benefits of Masturbation According to Lou Paget, a certified sex educator in Los Angeles and the author of Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming, getting lost in the deep end can boost your health profile for the following reasons: